By Peachy Impressions, Jan 25 2019 06:42PM
Your bridesmaids form a support network to help you plan your big day. Bridesmaids are usually close friends and family of both the bride and groom, headed up by a maid of honour or chief bridesmaid. The best bridesmaids are friends and family that will be willing to pitch in and help out with a smile. Younger relatives might be better off with a flower girl role as there is less involvement in the planning of the wedding.
Your bridesmaids can help with various parts of the wedding planning. It’s a good idea to give each bridesmaid specific tasks depending on their talent. You might ask them to help you with assembling your table centre pieces, hand writing wedding invitations, sorting the rsvp’s, categorising the menu choices or making your favours.
The maid of honour duties include arranging days where everyone can get together to go bridesmaid dress shopping/fitting. If there is a large group to organise you may need to be flexible to make it a stress free experience. It can be difficult to dress and coordinate a large group, so if you have concerns address them calmly with your maid of honour as soon as possible. Make sure you establish who will pay for the dresses and any extras such as accessories, hair and make-up. Traditionally the bride pays for what she wants her bridesmaids to have, but this isn’t always the case. Ask your maid of honour to double check everyone is on the same page to avoid any awkwardness.
Your bridesmaids may not know each other. Ask your maid of honour to bring everyone together, to chat wedding, start planning your hen party and make new friends. You can’t go wrong with a girlie night out.
As the wedding date gets nearer, make sure your bridesmaids know what time they need to arrive. Most brides like to have their bridesmaids with them from the start so you may need to think about accommodation and sleepover essentials – chocolates, girlie movies and champagne are all essential!
The day before your wedding you might need help with collecting dresses, delivering venue decorations or you may just need a relaxing spa afternoon with your besties with the W word banned. If you have asked your bridesmaids to bring anything in particular this is a good time to double check they haven’t forgotten.
On the day itself your bridesmaids should help younger bridesmaids and flower girls, whilst the maid of honour tends to the bride. The bridesmaids traditionally travel to the wedding ceremony with the maid of honour and the mother of the bride, leaving the bride to travel with her father. The bridesmaids should arrive ten minutes before the bride so they can see her arrive and be ready to assist. The traditional English style sees the bride and her father enter first, followed by the bridesmaids.
Some brides ask their bridesmaids to give a reading, recite a favourite poem or witness the signing of the register. After the ceremony is over the bridesmaids leave after the bride and groom and the maid of honour leaves with the best man.
If you choose to have a receiving line at your reception, you may require your bridesmaids to stand in it and greet your guests as a key member of your wedding party. Bridesmaids are typically not included on the top table but distributed across the table plan to host guests. Your bridesmaids should be available during the wedding reception to assist you. You might need makeup touch-ups, a drink, your comfy shoes or if you have a particularly cumbersome dress you may need help going to the bathroom.
Once you’ve finally decided which of your girls you want to walk with you down the aisle on your wedding day, why not make asking that question “will you be my bridesmaid?” extra special by giving them a “will you be my bridesmaid?” card.